All About Love: Anatomy of an Unruly Emotion by Lisa Appignanesi

By Lisa Appignanesi

Unruly, unpredictable—love is a maddening deity. during this insightful and eloquent meditation on that many-splendored factor, Lisa Appignanesi attracts jointly psychology, literature, pop culture, and her personal studies in an effort to tangle with love's paradoxes around the span of our lives. starting with the rose-tinted raptures of past love, she proceeds to like in marriage, triangulated love, jealousy and adultery, love within the relations, and friendship. by way of illuminating the expectancies, the fun and problems, and the cultural undercurrents that accompany every one degree, Appignanesi increases provocative questions on love within the twenty-first century: Has the unbinding of hindrances to like emptied it of that means? Do our wishes for style and experimentation lead to elevated anxiousness? What earnings and losses have come from better openness and equality and the burgeoning sphere of digital myth? As worthwhile because it is appealing, All approximately Love will depart you a bit wiser in regards to the emotion that principles our lives.

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Van Fleet said, "If you can't move a person to action by arousing his desire, then tum the coin over and move him to action by arousing his fear" (p. 131). Another of his recommended strategies for obtaining interpersonal control is attacking a person's weak and vulnerable points. With no trace of conscious guilt, he suggests, "Always go for a weak one where she cannot protect herself" (p. 141). " Unconsciously, Van Fleet, I surmise, at some level has some questions about the unethical and grossly immoral quality of his recommendations.

The treating analyst, Dr. S of four successive analytic hours. A total of thirteen different eminent analysts provided discussion papers of Silverman's process notes. Only one, Merton Gill, noted and discussed what I, along with Gill, consider to be the central interactional dynamic of the four analytic sessions-namely, the analyst and the analysand are engaged in a continuing sadomasochistic COVERT METHODS OF INTERPERSONAL CONTROL 27 interaction. Neither the patient nor the analyst explicitly addresses this ongoing pathological interaction.

I have such hostility, but I've never shown it. I think about my terrible temper when I was little. Mother had such pride that she was able to squelch it [p. 198]. The patient's memories about her father's impatience and rejection of her while teaching her how to drive may be viewed as derivatives of her unconscious meaning analysis of her interactions with the analyst. Dewald's impatience and directiveness are represented in her memory about her father's fury at her while trying to teach her to drive.

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